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The Adult Industry's Unintended Consequence: 

The Growing Connection Between Excessive Porn Use, Self-Gratification, 

and the Demand for Erectile Dysfunction Meds

Vanessa Cardenas, Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation

Vanessa Cardenas, Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation

Vanessa Cardenas, Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation

by Vanessa Cardenas, Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation 

(Warning; Triggering)

Is there a growing connection between excessive porn use, self-gratification, and the demand for erectile dysfunction medications?


Okay, ladies, we've all heard the rumor: excessive porn viewing and excessive "me time" may be contributing to the rising demand for "Daddy's Blue M&Ms."

But is there any truth to the rumor, or is it simply a rumor?

I explore the psychological and physiological elements that might tie these things together in this blog post.

First off, take note of how "ED medicine" is used to describe it in advertisements. Is this because focus groups revealed that men found the words "Erectile Dysfunction" awkward when they were put together like conjoined twins?

Commercials include cheerful older couples wishing to have a little fun, followed by a cut to the firm logo, a happy pair, and a soothing voiceover describing the extremely rare negative effects.

Everyone is content.

Why not create an advertisement from the viewpoint of the betrayed wife:

At a buffet table, a large group of friends and family gathered while watching kids playing in the backyard through the glass patio door. "Hello, sweetie (the room gets quiet to hear the hostess), " I found some delicious information regarding how your overindulgence in porn and too much "solo action" may be the cause of your manhood's current malfunction. It appears you have erectile dysfunction, so you'll need a prescription for something like the blue pill to keep me happy. I figured you might see if our family and friends are experiencing the same problem with their manhood not working.

A full list of adverse effects is in the voiceover, including some that will send you to the emergency room wearing a jacket across your midsection since you are taking more than the recommended dosage to stay erect for longer than three minutes. Rewind to the table where the men are avoiding all eye contact and the women are all giving each other the "me too, I'm not satisfied" look.

Well, now that we've lightened the tone a bit, let’s explore.

Just bear in mind that this blog is based on existing data and that, as your healthcare expert knows you best and I am writing in generalizations, it is always important to consult with them for personalized guidance.

So, what might be happening?

Psychological Factors:

Desensitization: Can It Be Done Too Much? 

It turns out that bingeing on adult programming may be similar to overindulging in spicy food in that you need hotter peppers to feel the burn. This means that watching too much porn may make it more difficult to elicit and sustain an erection in actual sexual circumstances, possibly leading to a reliance on little blue pills.

The "50 Shades of Unattainable Expectations" Effect and Performance Anxiety 

Online exposure to an endless stream of "excellent" sexual interactions may lead to the development of irrational sexual performance expectations. Having truly intimate moments may cause anxiety and stress. Greetings, erectile dysfunction, and performance anxiety! Come on in, stay a while…


Physiological Factors:

Sensitivity Drop: The "Firm Grip Fiasco" 

It seems that frequent masturbation, particularly with a firm grip or vigorous approach, can reduce sensitivity there. It might make it more difficult to get or keep an erection during IRL sessions without using medication.

Brain chemistry changes: the "overhaul of the pleasure center" 

Get this: excessive porn viewing alters the chemistry of your brain, especially in the neurological pathways involved in pleasure and reward. The need to take the tiny blue pill in order to maintain the good times could result from these changes, which could lead to sexual dysfunction.


What does that leave us with, then?

So, is the need for the little blue pill directly related to excessive porn, excessive self-love, or both? There is evidence to suggest that these practices may have some psychological and physiological effects, although experts are still looking into this. To get a comprehensive understanding of the situation, more investigation is required. 


Research is challenging, though, because excessive porn viewing and regular masturbation are taboo topics associated with guilt, embarrassment, and shame.


Let's continue the discussion as we gain more knowledge and practice being conscious of our routines. It's always a good idea to speak with a professional and stay up-to-date on the most recent studies if you're experiencing any problems with your manhood.


Communication, understanding, and a little humor can go a long way in maintaining a healthy and satisfying intimate life together!


Keep the conversation going, be aware of your own habits, and make sure to prioritize your sexual health!



Love, T., Laier, C., Brand, M., Hatch, L., & Hajela, R. (2015). Neuroscience of Internet Pornography Addiction: A Review and Update. Behavioral Sciences, 5(3), 388-433.

McCabe, M. P., & Sharlip, I. D. (2013). Psychological Factors in Erectile Dysfunction: Recommendations for Assessment and Treatment. Journal of Sexual Medicine, 10(1), 115-125.

Park, B. Y., et al. (2016). Is Internet Pornography Causing Sexual Dysfunctions? A Review with Clinical Reports. Behavioral Sciences, 6(3), 17.

Voon, V., et al. (2014). Neural Correlates of Sexual Cue Reactivity in Individuals with and without Compulsive Sexual Behaviors. PLoS ONE, 9(7), e102419.



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Vanessa Cardenas, Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation

Vanessa Cardenas is a Trusted Advisor for Betrayal and Transformation who specializes in guiding clients through the difficult and isolating experiences of betrayal, loss, and heartbreak. Vanessa offers a safe and empathetic space for those feeling overwhelmed, devastated, or alone, with a commitment to helping clients transform their pain into lasting liberation and profound change. 

Vanessa's own journey of growth and self-discovery began when her 20+ year marriage was shattered by betrayal, which prompted her to seek wisdom and guidance from renowned experts in the field. Drawing on insights from experts such as Esther Perel, Edith Eger, Debi Silber, Michelle Mays, Dennis Ortman, and Katherine Woodward Thomas, as well as her Industrial Psychology degree, a 20-year career in C-Suite Leadership and Mentoring, and her Evercoach Certification, recognized by the International Coaching Federation, Vanessa is well-equipped to help clients navigate their unique situations. 

Vanessa warmly welcomes clients at any stage of their journey, whether they are grappling with the shock and grief of betrayal, seeking clarity about staying or leaving, navigating separation or divorce, or addressing unhealthy relationship dynamics. With her warmth, intuition, and insight, she brings wisdom and compassion to the healing process, enabling her clients to experience wholeness, well-being, and freedom they never thought possible, one powerful chat at a time.

"The most important things are the hardest to say…locked within, not for the want of a teller, but for the want of an Understanding Ear"– Stephen King, The Body

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