Vanessa Cardenas, Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation
Vanessa Cardenas, Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation
Finding the Silver Lining in Betrayal: Lessons Learned
by Vanessa Cardenas, Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation
How might I? ~ how might I? ~ how might I see the good in my whole world shattering with three words? (I've met someone)
I asked this often. Even in counseling, years ago, I contemplated and lamented to our marriage therapist that I MUST be going through all this gut-wrenching pain and sorrow of betrayal for a reason.
A reason, at the time, wasn’t presenting itself but for as long as I can remember, I always thought this way…things happened (to me) for a reason. Something better would be around the corner.
Sometimes, it was a whisper or a nudge. This time it was a shove down a flight of stairs (felt more like off a skyscraper roof).
And this time, rather than being patient as I always waited for the reason to present itself, I strained to see it. I tried to clear my mind of all the intrusive thoughts and images. I struggled. Why wasn’t it presenting itself? Doubt crept in, but I knew in my bones the reason was there, waiting to be unearthed.
Of course, when I wasn’t straining and looking, there it appeared before me. She looked right into my eyes and what was to be a 10 minute meet and greet turned into 90 minutes of profound wisdom. She picked at it, tugged, pushed, and pulled, until I let go...and gave birth.
It was born.
My purpose.
My mission.
My healing heart sang.
My mood lifted.
My energy soared.
There it was.
I went through betrayal years ago so I could lead others through it. I’ve been through my own personal hell ~ walked out of the flames carrying buckets of water for those still consumed by the fire.
Today, I own my betrayal, no longer consumed by fear or shame, rage or sadness. I have clarity.
I found my authentic self.
Now, I have the privilege of helping others all over the world to break free from negative self-beliefs, build confidence in themselves and find direction in the dark. Lessons were learned.
I have been where you are and I am on the other side with a map and a flashlight. Together, we will get you through.
“Loving ourselves through the process of owning our story
is the bravest thing we will ever do. ”
Brené Brown
Meet the Guide: Your Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation
Vanessa Cardenas, Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation
Vanessa Cardenas, Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation
Vanessa Cardenas is a Trusted Advisor for Betrayal and Transformation who specializes in guiding clients through the difficult and isolating experiences of betrayal, loss, and heartbreak. Vanessa offers a safe and empathetic space for those feeling overwhelmed, devastated, or alone, with a commitment to helping clients transform their pain into lasting liberation and profound change.
Vanessa's own journey of growth and self-discovery began when her 20+ year marriage was shattered by betrayal, which prompted her to seek wisdom and guidance from renowned experts in the field. Drawing on insights from experts such as Esther Perel, Edith Eger, Debi Silber, Michelle Mays, Dennis Ortman, and Katherine Woodward Thomas, as well as her Industrial Psychology degree, a 20-year career in C-Suite Leadership and Mentoring, and her Evercoach Certification, recognized by the International Coaching Federation, Vanessa is well-equipped to help clients navigate their unique situations.
Vanessa warmly welcomes clients at any stage of their journey, whether they are grappling with the shock and grief of betrayal, seeking clarity about staying or leaving, navigating separation or divorce, or addressing unhealthy relationship dynamics. With her warmth, intuition, and insight, she brings wisdom and compassion to the healing process, enabling her clients to experience wholeness, well-being, and freedom they never thought possible, one powerful chat at a time.
"The most important things are the hardest to say…locked within, not for the want of a teller, but for the want of an Understanding Ear"– Stephen King, The Body
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