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How long does it take to heal from betrayal?

Vanessa Cardenas, Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation

Vanessa Cardenas, Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation

How long does it take to heal from betrayal?

By Vanessa Cardenas, Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation


How long does it take to heal from intimate partner betrayal? This is typed into Google hundreds of times a day. So many of us who were betrayed are looking for answers, and that's one of the top questions. 


How long does it take to heal from intimate partner betrayal? As if Google has some sort of algorithm within it that says that if you type in: 


  • number of years you've been married, 

  • number of years or months or weeks that the infidelity took place

  • number of children. 

  • You live in this zip code. 

  • This is the type of car you drive. 

  • This is your bank account balance


It goes through some sort of formulary and multiplies and divides and ads and subtracts and a fraction and this and that, and it spits out a number and tells you in 183 days you will be heal.


Unfortunately, it doesn't work like that. 


I can tell you that when you work with someone, it definitely accelerates your healing process, especially if you're working with someone who's gone through betrayal. I'm here to let you know that you will, in fact, heal from betrayal. I know it's gut-wrenching right now.


With all the emotions that you're going through, your head and your heart are completely out of sync. All you're doing is searching for answers. You're getting on various groups and writing out your life story, looking for answers, and looking for an understanding of why did this happen. What did I do? All of these questions that you have, I know I had all of the same questions, and then some


To give you an idea of how I operate, I am not cookie cutter. I do not put my clients through some sort of really long, convoluted, complicated process. My courses are very straightforward, right to the point. With a little bit of humor, because you do have to have humor. And I know right now you're like, "I can't laugh at anything." I'm devastated. I get it.


I know I was right there with you. I had been married for decades. I never thought, never in a million years did I think that I would ever hear the words. "I've met someone," and my whole world shattered.

It shattered for others. Sometimes it's a slow burn, but in any event, betrayal is betrayal. And it hurts. It hurts like nothing else you have ever gone through.


I know I've been there, and now I'm on the other side. I'm a beautiful example of the possibilities. There are possibilities. There's hope. You will heal. I promise you; you will heal. Will it be accelerated when you work with me? Absolutely. I've been exactly where you are now. While our relationships are very different, there are a lot of commonalities, and I promise you, you will heal.


Take advantage of all the resources that I have available for you. Drop your email address in for a free guide. I look forward to seeing you. Best of luck on your healing journey.

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Meet the Guide: Vanessa Cardenas, Your Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation

Vanessa Cardenas

Vanessa Cardenas, Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation

Vanessa Cardenas, Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation

Vanessa Cardenas is a Trusted Advisor for Betrayal and Transformation who specializes in guiding clients through the difficult and isolating experiences of betrayal, loss, and heartbreak. Vanessa offers a safe and empathetic space for those feeling overwhelmed, devastated, or alone, with a commitment to helping clients transform their pain into lasting liberation and profound change. 


Vanessa's own journey of growth and self-discovery began when her 20+ year marriage was shattered by betrayal, which prompted her to seek wisdom and guidance from renowned experts in the field. Drawing on insights from experts such as Esther Perel, Edith Eger, Debi Silber, Michelle Mays, Dennis Ortman, and Katherine Woodward Thomas, as well as her Industrial Psychology degree, a 20-year career in C-Suite Leadership and Mentoring, and her Evercoach Certification, recognized by the International Coaching Federation, Vanessa is well-equipped to help clients navigate their unique situations. 


Vanessa warmly welcomes clients at any stage of their journey, whether they are grappling with the shock and grief of betrayal, seeking clarity about staying or leaving, navigating separation or divorce, or addressing unhealthy relationship dynamics. With her warmth, intuition, and insight, she brings wisdom and compassion to the healing process, enabling her clients to experience wholeness, well-being, and freedom they never thought possible, one powerful chat at a time.


"The most important things are the hardest to say…locked within, not for the want of a teller, but for the want of an Understanding Ear" Stephen King, The Body

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