Vanessa Cardenas, Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation
Vanessa Cardenas, Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation
A Reason, a Season, or a Lifetime
What Happens When Betrayal Crashes the Relationship
By Vanessa Cardenas, Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation
As a Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation, I understand the importance of healthy relationships to our mental and physical well-being. I strongly encourage clients to avoid "turtling" and remove the rose colored glasses to truly see their relationship for what it truly is.
One concept that has gained popularity in recent years is the idea that people come into our lives for a reason, a season, or a lifetime.
While this concept is often applied to friendships, in an interesting twist, I have applied it to relationships that are affected by intimate partner betrayal.
Let's explore how the concepts of reason, season, and lifetime relationships relate:
A "reason" relationship
Sometimes, we enter into relationships for a brief period of time, but they can still have a significant impact on our lives. For example, you might have met someone at a party and started dating them for a few weeks. However, you later found out that they were cheating on you with multiple partners. Although it hurt you, this relationship taught you to set healthy boundaries and recognize red flags in future relationships.
A "season" relationship
Seasonal relationships are those that last for a longer period of time but eventually come to an end. For example, you might have been married to someone for several years, but eventually, you discovered that they had been lying to you and hiding their addiction to adult content. You eventually ended the relationship, but not before it had a significant impact on your life. However, despite the pain and heartache, you learned to prioritize your own needs and make decisions that were best for you.
A "lifetime" relationship
Lifetime relationships are those that endure over the course of many years and can bring us great joy and fulfillment. For example, you might have been with your partner for many years and have built a life together. However, you recently discovered that they have been having an affair for a long time. Although it has caused you tremendous pain and hurt, you are both willing to work through it together and try to rebuild your relationship.
No matter what type of relationship we find ourselves in, it's important to prioritize our own well-being and set healthy boundaries. In the face of intimate partner betrayal, it can be particularly challenging to navigate these issues, but it's crucial that we do so in order to build relationships that are positive and fulfilling.
Positive relationships can have a significant impact on our mental and physical health, but it's important to be willing to let go of toxic relationships, even if we thought they were "lifetime" relationships. By remembering the good while accepting the bad, we can focus on building relationships that bring us joy and help us grow.
The concept of reason, season, and lifetime relationships can be applied to all types of relationships, including those that are affected by intimate partner betrayal. By prioritizing our own well-being and setting healthy boundaries, we can build relationships that are positive, fulfilling, and transformative.
Meet the Guide: Vanessa Cardenas, Your Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation
Vanessa Cardenas, Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation
Vanessa Cardenas, Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation
Vanessa Cardenas is a Trusted Advisor for Betrayal and Transformation who specializes in guiding clients through the difficult and isolating experiences of betrayal, loss, and heartbreak. Vanessa offers a safe and empathetic space for those feeling overwhelmed, devastated, or alone, with a commitment to helping clients transform their pain into lasting liberation and profound change.
Vanessa's own journey of growth and self-discovery began when her 20+ year marriage was shattered by betrayal, which prompted her to seek wisdom and guidance from renowned experts in the field. Drawing on insights from experts such as Esther Perel, Edith Eger, Debi Silber, Michelle Mays, Dennis Ortman, and Katherine Woodward Thomas, as well as her Industrial Psychology degree, a 20-year career in C-Suite Leadership and Mentoring, and her Evercoach Certification, recognized by the International Coaching Federation, Vanessa is well-equipped to help clients navigate their unique situations.
Vanessa warmly welcomes clients at any stage of their journey, whether they are grappling with the shock and grief of betrayal, seeking clarity about staying or leaving, navigating separation or divorce, or addressing unhealthy relationship dynamics. With her warmth, intuition, and insight, she brings wisdom and compassion to the healing process, enabling her clients to experience wholeness, well-being, and freedom they never thought possible, one powerful chat at a time.
"The most important things are the hardest to say…locked within, not for the want of a teller, but for the want of an Understanding Ear"– Stephen King, The Body
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