Dealing with the Devastation of Your Partner's Betrayal:
What to Do When Your World Falls Apart
- A Quick Introduction
Empowering Books for Healing and Recovery: Discover Vanessa Cardenas' Insights as the Trusted Advisor for Betrayal & Transformation




What Professionals are Saying
Partner betrayal trauma has become far too common. It is vital for those seeking help to have a valuable resource at a time when they are most vulnerable.
Ms. Cardenas offers hope at a time when hope is in short-supply. Though this is one of life's most difficult challenges, with time and proper support, healing can happen.
The author covers a range of topics that fit into small, digestible chapters.
This gives the reader confidence that getting through the early stage of discovery is achievable and that positive growth is attainable.
Ms. Cardenas further emphasizes the importance of open communication between the couple.
Ideally, this should happen immediately. Honesty and transparency are essential for real change to take place within the coupleship and open dialog is necessary for the changes to be sustained.
Ellen Imbiano, LMHC, CSAT, CPTT
Did You Betray Your Partner? Part 1
Since men are human, they can make mistakes. One aspect of life we make mistakes in is our relationships. Since so many studies show that a strong predictor of happiness and longevity is the quality of our relationships, betraying our partner is a significant issue.
Google says that nearly half of individuals in monogamous relationships admit to having an affair. Close to 25% of marriages stay together after an instance of cheating.
My guest today, Vanessa Cardenas, is your trusted advisor for Betrayal and Transformation. Vanessa is a highly experienced C-Suite Executive, Mentor, Coach, and Speaker with a degree in Industrial Psychology. She is also the founder and CEO of Understanding Ear, LLC, where she empowers individuals and groups to heal from betrayal, amplify their authenticity, and find love and happiness on their terms.
Vanessa delivers a master class on men who've betrayed their spouses but want to stay together. She shares the three aspects of cheating, why women can't just "get over it," and seven reasons why men cheat. You'll also learn what got Vanessa working with betrayal.
Be willing to have difficult conversations before betrayal to avoid needing them after.
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Real Men Feel: Ep. 303, Did Your Partner Betray You? | Recovering From Betrayal Part 2
Did Your Partner Betray You? | Recovering From Betrayal Part 2 Episode 303, June 2, 2023
Today is part 2 of Recovering From Betrayal, focusing on a man betrayed by his wife. See part 1.
My returning guest, Vanessa Cardenas, is your trusted advisor for Betrayal and Transformation. Vanessa is a highly experienced C-Suite Executive, Mentor, Coach, and Speaker with a degree in Industrial Psychology. She is also the founder and CEO of Understanding Ear, LLC, where she empowers individuals and groups to heal from betrayal, amplify their authenticity, and find love and happiness on their terms.
Vanessa shares how she went from supporting women to serving more and more men. We explore the pain, secrecy, and shame men experience after discovering their spouse’s cheating. Vanessa also explores why men and women have affairs and the most common question men have when they find out they’ve been betrayed.
While women often want to tell the world when they’ve been cheated on, that is not the typical response for men. What is so crucial for a man who has been betrayed is to forgive himself.
The core message is to be willing to have difficult conversations before betrayal to avoid needing them after.